Marriage Quotes...and a Few Personal Thoughts, Part 2

Here's another interesting piece of advice you'll find on our marriage quotes page:
 

"Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation."

This quote is from Oscar Wilde who was an Irish writer from the late 1800s. One of his accomplishments was the novel "The Picture of Dorian Gray."

I really like Oscar's quote.

When you find conversation is high in a marriage, or any relationship, you'll usually find a high level of affinity as well. Of course we're talking about civil conversation here, not two people yelling and screaming at each other. Although some people will tell you that yelling at each other is better than not talking at all. 

If you find your level of conversation falling off, take steps to remedy. One very easy remedy is to talk about something your spouse is very interested in.

One example would be:

The wife can't wait to see the wedding between Prince Charles and Kate Middleton. The husband couldn't care less. But the communication between them hasn't been all that great lately, so the husband asks, "How are things lining up for the royal wedding?"

If asked sincerely, this could have a very positive effect. Of course it might take a few instances of doing this, but I've seen it work quite often.

Another example:

The husband loves professional football. That might include a few husbands, right? And there just may be a few wives who have zero to minus zero interest in football. But again the communication between the two needs a helping hand, so the wife says the night before the big game, "Honey I'm heading to the store. What can I get you for the game tomorrow?" or:

"Honey, the guys in Vegas have the Colts as a lock for tomorrow's game. Is that how you see it?"

Okay, I'm kidding on that last one, but you get the idea. 

The bond between the two of you is easily improved with good communication.

Do you have a marriage quote or two that you particularly like? Feel free to let us know in the comment section below.

Comments

[Adewale Aloko]

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.
She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly.
Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

Read the rest of this story here http://soinspiringstories.blogspot.com/2011/10/marriage.html

[Elliptical reviews]

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[Stan Dubin]

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